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[Shahenshah]

I try to keep myself distracted and let the time do the rest. Works for me, I try not to dwell too much over it. Naturally, you will think about it, cant just blank it out, but you have to actively disconnect the thoughts. 

[Kryievla]

Not very? 

 

To this day I still have feelings for some of my former partners.  I still care about what happens to them, & in some cases would lend them a hand if they needed it.  For all that, I don't see the point in dwelling on what was.  Whether a relationship is serious or frivolous, when it's over it's over.  Life is short.  If you see something or someone that interests you, why wait? 

[Wolfpacks]

You know what they say Blade mate, once you get thrown by the horse, shoot it and go get another one 😂😂😂

[Bill N Ted]

Ah Blade, so young...  Hormones my friend; hormones.

 

I was with a girl for 6 years or so?  Things were going well and then went down hill after we were both working a lot of hours (there were no third parties involved) and she called it a day, we were both pretty stressed out at the time; no children involved, both professionals with commitments.  I certainly loved her at one point and had came close to asking her to marry me twice, I think she would have said yes.

 

I moved on, got a few notches (4 to be precise) but nothing serious and about 18 months down the line a "lets try it again" opportunity came along; so we gave it a go.  I went back to her trying to recapture what I had, what I got was completely different which in retrospect was a large learning curve for me:

 

• Ex/Non-Ex girlfriend was annoying as fuck.  Not being petty, not asking for money or with holding the sex just everything about her grated on me.  Felt that I could do better and was settling, felt that the relationship was going no where and that I didn't want it to go nowhere.
• I deeply resented her.  She did nothing wrong other than be herself, I just fucked up and made the mistake of going back to her for an easy leg over whilst looking back on the past with rose tinted glasses.

 

My advice would be to move on; there's 7 billion people on this earth, that's around 3.5 billion vagina's for your winkie to call home.  Plenty more puss out there that you'll no doubt fall in love with, most men do; would suggest someone with no baggage (ie children, murderous ex partners etc) as your young enough.

[Marxamus]

My advice would be to move on; there's 7 billion people on this earth, that's around 3.5 billion vagina's for your winkie to call home. Plenty more puss out there that you'll no doubt fall in love with, most men do; would suggest someone with no baggage (ie children, murderous ex partners etc) as your young enough.

 

I have a friend who is bisexual and he put it like this "Why settle for only half the worlds population? Love everyone"

 

For some people that works. But he's right, there are lots of other people. You'll find out.

[Samus]

just keep focusing on yourself, girls are a lot of baggage from my limited years of experience, keep close female friends around you for your male needs, but don't wife them all up, we too young bro, we gotta build ourselves up and become successful

[Brussels]

I've had a couple of long term relationships and my current partner is the one I probably see myself marrying. She's my best friend and we were friends before we started dating. It always helps to know you'd be friends even if the sex wasn't on the table, but in a proper relationship, sex is never off the table.

 

In terms of moving on, time. Keep yourself active and if you want to jump into bed with someone, go for it. Don't be hard on yourself about anything.