The Hardest Decision I Ever Made
It is nearly dark, and you are
walking home from class at university. You walk round a corner, and nearly
knock over your best friend, who is leaning against a lamp-post. He seems
strange. He is irritable and his eyes are red. He can’t stop talking; his eye
pupils are growing bigger. These are clear signs of cocaine. Suddenly he
stumbles, and a needle falls out of his pocket. You cannot believe that your
best friend, who you trusted, now uses addictive drugs. Should you tell his
parents; the police; your teachers? Or because of your friendship should you
try to help him yourself? Or should you do nothing because of your friendship
and the trust you have in each other? This is a classic dilemma, but it
actually happened to me.
My name is John Crooks and I live in
Dublin. My friend, William, lived next door to my house, and I had known him
ever since he was born. We had a great friendship; nevertheless I discovered
him using a dangerous, addictive drug, which is truly terrible. I didn’t know
whether I should tell anyone. In fact, he asked me not to, saying: ‘Don’t be so silly! Why should you tell
anyone? It was just a wee bit of fun, and it’s not really dangerous! I can stop anytime!’
Unfortunately, I
knew otherwise. Once you start a dangerous drug it is extremely hard to stop
taking it. My dilemma was: should I break the friendship and trust that we had
in each other and tell the relevant authorities, or maintain the trust we have
in each other, and do nothing.
There are
advantages to both answers. William always helped me with my homework, and he
might not help me anymore if I told anyone. I also had known him for many
years, and if he didn’t want me to tell anyone, then maybe I shouldn’t do it.
However, he was using a dangerous substance, and unless I told anyone, he might
not stop using it. If it would help William, I was willing to tell the
authorities, even if it meant that he would no longer trust me. Nevertheless, I
still didn’t know if I should tell anyone.
I pondered this
issue with my friend over a few days. In the end, I decided to tell someone. I
called the police station, asked them to meet me at William’s house (hidden
behind a door leading to the living room), and then brought William to the
living room. He managed to stop using the dangerous substance in time before
his body and mind were too damaged by it (and thanked me for telling someone
later).
This was the
hardest decision that I ever was forced to make. While at times I am still not
certain, I feel I did the right thing, by allowing William to seek help. In a dilemma
both answers are ‘right’, and you must make up your mind, considering the
advantages and disadvantages as to what is the right thing to do. What would
you have done in a situation like mine?