Hump the girl's leg. That way you establish dominance and everything will be a cake walk from there.

I kind of have your problem, I mean yea in my class we were 3 guys and 15 girls, but even now when I am close a cute girl i get kind of nervous and shy, what helps me most of the time is thinking of the girl as my best friend and talk to her without putting this BIG invisible barrier of "oh my god should I say this" I just talk with her if I have some information about her via Facebook or twitter(no i'm not a creeper) I kind of think what I should be talking about with her and if she is interested in this, the last time I saw a cute girl was when I met my cousin her classmates, on f them was really hot and I was nervous of how I should talk in fron of her and all her classmates and you know what I did? I started joking, yep joking, with them, with the people around us hell, even with myself, and we all laughed and had fun, but as I already said, never put that invisible barrier.

 

Think he's 15

sorry haven't been being notified about this post. I just turned 16 couple days ago. And thanks for the advice guys.

How old are you? Serious question, if you want some advice it will help to know what sort of social situations you are in. 

 

 

Do you get nervous talking to strangers in general?

 

A little bit, I think I might have social issues to be honest.

 

Flash, I'm going to respond to you in a fairly blunt and directive way, with a few techniques that will help you talk to people, including girls.  I hope that is okay with you.  There are exceptions to every rule and I hate using absolutes, so understand that I'm making a lot of generalizations, but they're good generalizations, IMHO.

 

Ok, first of all, at 16 your life is one unexpected or unwanted body change after another.  This is enough to make anyone a nervous wreck.  The same girls you played with 6 years ago have gone through their own version of unexpected or unwanted body changes, and they are often extremely uncomfortable with themselves.  They may look like goddesses, but  more often than not they don't know they've  suddenly gotten very hot and they almost certainly have no idea that you feel the way you do unless you show it.

 

Other people have said this and I'm going to say it again, do not assume she wants anything sexual from anyone right now. You might want something sexual, but put that stuff away for now.  Just because she's a good looking female ( or even an ugly female) that doesn't mean she's looking for someone who wants to swap spit with her.  A lot of guys want to jump anything in a dress, but girls just wants to be treated like a person.  There's a good chance she's afraid of boys and she probably doesn't know that guys are just as terrified of girls as she is of guys.  She might want a boyfriend, but she's going to be much more open to connecting that way if you approach her the way you approach people you aren't attracted to in the world.  Put aside your libido, don't look at her body, pretend she's really physically unattractive and try to get to know who she is.  This is easier said than done, but if you are able to forget that she's hot, you are more likely to be able to engage her in conversation, which is the only way you will ever connect with her.

 

As for being shy, I'll bet it looks like everyone is out-going and confident, while you're just squirming in the corner.  Some people are naturally out-going, but a lot of people fake it until they make it.  When I'm teaching social skills, I tell people that a friendly smile goes a long way.  You don't need to really be smiling to smile, go look in the mirror and fake a smile.  Looks fake, right?  Now fake the smile again, but bring your eyes into it, a real smile involves a little bit of a squint.  Try it.  Looks more real, even if you don't think it does.  Also, most people who don't know you well will have no idea when your smile is fake or real, so go ahead and fake it 'til you make it.

 

Conversation:  Spend a little time preparing with some generic topics for conversation.  You don't have to have a particular girl in mind to do this, and it will help you make friends no matter where you are.  You don't need to have brilliant things to say, just a few  topics that will fit most situations.  Asking people questions about themselves is a great way to get a conversation going. What do you have in common with the person you're talking to?  If you're in the same class ask how she likes that class, or the teacher, or wasn't that test hard or something along those lines.  If she's in a different class,  how does she like that class/teacher/etc?  What kind of music does she like?  You like the same stuff? YAY, talk about the music!  If you don't like the same stuff, ask what she likes about the stuff she likes.  In order for this to work, you have to show interest and focus on what she's saying, so nod and ask follow up questions.

 

Rejection:  you probably think you will be crushed if a girl isn't interested in you, but you are wrong.  You will survive.  The thing is, if someone you don't know rejects you, they aren't really rejecting you because they don't know you.  She may not be in the mood to talk with anyone she isn't close to, she may have had a fight with their parents and just want to sulk, maybe you remind her of her uncle Fred, who locked her in a closet when she was younger.  The point is, she doesn't really know who you are inside so if she is not interested in you, it is probably because of something going within her and has little or nothing to do with you. 

 

Ugh, I'm being really long winded and I'm talking to you the way I talk to people in their 20s, 30, 40s+.  I am sorry if I'm boring you, but think about what I'm saying and try to pick out anything that you think applies to you.  Also, I'm saying this because I don't know you and I don't know what you need at all, but if you are truly paralyzed in social situations talking to a therapist can do a lot to help.  I don't think you need a therapist.  I'm just saying that is an option.

Listen to mum!^

Mum? MUM???  MUM???!!!

 

WTF!  Pops!  I'm a freaking spring chicken with perky... oh forget it.  Samus I fart in your general direction.

They are perfectly perky. I have seen them.

 

I bask in all your alls jeliousy.

 

_____________________________________

 

Edit:

 

OP:

Confidence. Relax. Treat her like a lady. Be intested in her above the neck. Its ok to be attracted to her and its normal.

For yourself, improve your self. work out. Get a interesting hobbie. Become well spoken. Take care of yourself. Seek out social situations and try them. Your skills will improve.

And there is bay.

All good advice I think, look just be yourself, the is one thing they hate more then anything else thats BS, don't pretend to be something your not, never show off, they dislike that too, your not the greatest thing since sliced bread, if I've learned 1 thing in my 49 years, respect them, they respond to that

And there is bay.

OMG!  Bay!  Does my hair look okay?  *adjusts blouse to show the best cleavage* ( @ )( @ )

All good advice I think, look just be yourself, the is one thing they hate more then anything else thats BS, don't pretend to be something your not, never show off, they dislike that too, your not the greatest thing since sliced bread, if I've learned 1 thing in my 49 years, respect them, they respond to that

You're 49?  Cool.  I think a man reaches his peak when he hits 50.  You seem to know a lot about women.  I like that in a man. 

Although some react totally different

Although some react totally different

The important thing is that you know how to adjust to the individual.  Are you a quick adjuster?

 

 

*hangs head in shame for hijacking the thread*

 

 

Think he's 15

sorry haven't been being notified about this post. I just turned 16 couple days ago. And thanks for the advice guys.

How old are you? Serious question, if you want some advice it will help to know what sort of social situations you are in. 

 

 

Do you get nervous talking to strangers in general?

 

A little bit, I think I might have social issues to be honest.

 

Flash, I'm going to respond to you in a fairly blunt and directive way, with a few techniques that will help you talk to people, including girls.  I hope that is okay with you.  There are exceptions to every rule and I hate using absolutes, so understand that I'm making a lot of generalizations, but they're good generalizations, IMHO.

 

Ok, first of all, at 16 your life is one unexpected or unwanted body change after another.  This is enough to make anyone a nervous wreck.  The same girls you played with 6 years ago have gone through their own version of unexpected or unwanted body changes, and they are often extremely uncomfortable with themselves.  They may look like goddesses, but  more often than not they don't know they've  suddenly gotten very hot and they almost certainly have no idea that you feel the way you do unless you show it.

 

Other people have said this and I'm going to say it again, do not assume she wants anything sexual from anyone right now. You might want something sexual, but put that stuff away for now.  Just because she's a good looking female ( or even an ugly female) that doesn't mean she's looking for someone who wants to swap spit with her.  A lot of guys want to jump anything in a dress, but girls just wants to be treated like a person.  There's a good chance she's afraid of boys and she probably doesn't know that guys are just as terrified of girls as she is of guys.  She might want a boyfriend, but she's going to be much more open to connecting that way if you approach her the way you approach people you aren't attracted to in the world.  Put aside your libido, don't look at her body, pretend she's really physically unattractive and try to get to know who she is.  This is easier said than done, but if you are able to forget that she's hot, you are more likely to be able to engage her in conversation, which is the only way you will ever connect with her.

 

As for being shy, I'll bet it looks like everyone is out-going and confident, while you're just squirming in the corner.  Some people are naturally out-going, but a lot of people fake it until they make it.  When I'm teaching social skills, I tell people that a friendly smile goes a long way.  You don't need to really be smiling to smile, go look in the mirror and fake a smile.  Looks fake, right?  Now fake the smile again, but bring your eyes into it, a real smile involves a little bit of a squint.  Try it.  Looks more real, even if you don't think it does.  Also, most people who don't know you well will have no idea when your smile is fake or real, so go ahead and fake it 'til you make it.

 

Conversation:  Spend a little time preparing with some generic topics for conversation.  You don't have to have a particular girl in mind to do this, and it will help you make friends no matter where you are.  You don't need to have brilliant things to say, just a few  topics that will fit most situations.  Asking people questions about themselves is a great way to get a conversation going. What do you have in common with the person you're talking to?  If you're in the same class ask how she likes that class, or the teacher, or wasn't that test hard or something along those lines.  If she's in a different class,  how does she like that class/teacher/etc?  What kind of music does she like?  You like the same stuff? YAY, talk about the music!  If you don't like the same stuff, ask what she likes about the stuff she likes.  In order for this to work, you have to show interest and focus on what she's saying, so nod and ask follow up questions.

 

Rejection:  you probably think you will be crushed if a girl isn't interested in you, but you are wrong.  You will survive.  The thing is, if someone you don't know rejects you, they aren't really rejecting you because they don't know you.  She may not be in the mood to talk with anyone she isn't close to, she may have had a fight with their parents and just want to sulk, maybe you remind her of her uncle Fred, who locked her in a closet when she was younger.  The point is, she doesn't really know who you are inside so if she is not interested in you, it is probably because of something going within her and has little or nothing to do with you. 

 

Ugh, I'm being really long winded and I'm talking to you the way I talk to people in their 20s, 30, 40s+.  I am sorry if I'm boring you, but think about what I'm saying and try to pick out anything that you think applies to you.  Also, I'm saying this because I don't know you and I don't know what you need at all, but if you are truly paralyzed in social situations talking to a therapist can do a lot to help.  I don't think you need a therapist.  I'm just saying that is an option.

 

Only thing I would say is about 50-60% of teenagers I've met would benefit from some kind of therapy... on average they're too sensitive and need to learn how to let things go.

 

But the above is very sound advice, and for the love of sanity don't become obsessed / infatuated / stalkery or whatever you want to call it with them... the grand gestures of Hollywood are unlikely to go down well in the real world.

I'm 46, and happily married for 8 years, been with her for 22 years. I can't add anything that anyone else has said, other than to agree with it.

 

I never rated a SM boob shot.

 

Bay I'm jealous. Also, props to SM for farting in Samoose's general direction. He needs the abuse.

Ok, I posted a while back on here, and I am happy to report that the 15 year old (husbands cousin) that I pestered the crap out of... He's got his FIRST Girlfriend! They've been dating for about 2 weeks!

 

 

I wonder if it would help OP with his shyness to just talk to the females in the alliance. Just general information, like someone else stated, just asking about music preferences, game preferences, if they have any animals & what kind/how many.. Just general stuff. I think it may help, but I have really no idea, OP is the only one that would know what might help. Good luck though.

 

Oh and I really see no problem with people having friends of all different ages, because those that are still really young and can find friends that are older could benefit from learning from us older peoples mistakes.

BRO U JUST GOTTA CHECK ALL THAT SHIT AT THE DOOR. THE WORST THING THAT WILL HAPPEN IS THIS SKANK WILL NOT REALLLY WANT TO TALK TO YOU. DON'T PUT THESE HOES ON A PESDISTAL. NOW IM A FAGGOT BUT THIS ADVICE STILL WORKS --REALLY WHAT IS THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN? DON'T B AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES AND BE VULNERABLE THATS HOW U GROW. MAN I LOVE PENIS. ANYWAY BRO WHAT COULD HELP YOU ALSO IS THE RED PILL ON REDDIT AND WORKIN OUT TO GET U SOME CONFIDENCE

BRO U JUST GOTTA CHECK ALL THAT SHIT AT THE DOOR. THE WORST THING THAT WILL HAPPEN IS THIS SKANK WILL NOT REALLLY WANT TO TALK TO YOU. DON'T PUT THESE HOES ON A PESDISTAL. NOW IM A FAGGOT BUT THIS ADVICE STILL WORKS --REALLY WHAT IS THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN? DON'T B AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES AND BE VULNERABLE THATS HOW U GROW. MAN I LOVE PENIS. ANYWAY BRO WHAT COULD HELP YOU ALSO IS THE RED PILL ON REDDIT AND WORKIN OUT TO GET U SOME CONFIDENCE

lol the only con in allowing anyone to post on these forums smh

 

anyway I do agree, red pill on reddit has some good content

Unless you're short... when you're short the more muscle you build the shorter you look.

BRO U JUST GOTTA CHECK ALL THAT SHIT AT THE DOOR. THE WORST THING THAT WILL HAPPEN IS THIS SKANK WILL NOT REALLLY WANT TO TALK TO YOU. DON'T PUT THESE HOES ON A PESDISTAL. NOW IM A FAGGOT BUT THIS ADVICE STILL WORKS --REALLY WHAT IS THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN? DON'T B AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES AND BE VULNERABLE THATS HOW U GROW. MAN I LOVE PENIS. ANYWAY BRO WHAT COULD HELP YOU ALSO IS THE RED PILL ON REDDIT AND WORKIN OUT TO GET U SOME CONFIDENCE

All caps? Check. Gratuitous misagyny? Check. Homoerotic/homophobic dichotomy? Check. Cringe-worthy grammar/spelling? Check..... , Congratulations! You are a middle aged troll who escaped from the year 2006 and managed to find his way here by exploiting a flaw in the time-space continuum. Welcome to 2016, where you still live in your mom's basement, suffer from that embarrassing skin condition, and remain a virgin.

If it is any consolation, I believe there may be less malodorous, over the counter treatments for that skin problem, so there is that.

KEEP CALM and TRUST YOUR SELF , i'm not that pretty but i got married