It also works if you are drunk . For the first ten or so dates with my girlfriend I was dead drunk and high as the sky; the first date I spilt a beer down her dress; the first sleep-over I was so drunk I accidentally mistook her wardrobe for the bathroom... Anyways, she saw pass my, erhm, small personality flaws and today we live together and have 3 kids So, the verdict must be; get her drunk, get yourself drunk, and work from there.